The Landscape of Well Being
By annipoole, Jul 22 2017 05:22PM
Do you know where to find unlimited well -being? What if I told you a simple fact, that is the truth. We are all born with UNLIMITED innate well- being and resiliency.
WE ARE NOT PASSIVE RECEPTORS OF OUR CIRCUMSTANCES. It is our true nature to internally create them!
If an alien landed in the UK, in mid -winter, they may see the drabness of the landscape and feel the chill of a northerly wind. They would find very little food as they foraged. They would label our world as barren, unyielding, cold and unwelcoming. If those same aliens landed in summertime, they would see an abundance of colours, smell sweet fragrance and be able to fill up on lush strawberries.
Two vastly different external experiences of the same landscape. And both of those experiences are created from our personal thinking. (You will even read this blog post from your own thinking, yet hopefully some of it will bring insight.)
Imagine if that dark, icy, barren landscape feels so familiar, it may even feel like HOME, our preferred place to be. How could that possibly be? The answer is simple … our experience of what we create comes from within. Within each of us is a feeling of being HOME. A space of well- being and of ease. Our innate well- being space.
Every experience we ever have is ours. Every experience is created through our personal thinking. We become conscious of that thinking through our feelings
Where I see and feel drab, another might see and feel beauty. Where I experience a feeling of ease, of being at HOME, another may not. The difference is in how we see or personally create our thought story in the moment.
A staffroom story of discovery
Ms Worry and Mr Overwhelm are eating lunch and marking books. They share ideas of their best school trip adventures. Ms Worry remembers the day she took Y9’s on a field trip into a forest. They were given maps and safety instructions for finding their way to a giant redwood, deep in the middle of the forest. This was their place to meet back as a group.
Half the group made it easily in record time and half didn’t.
The lost group described their experiences as going around in circles, even though they had the very same map as the group that made it so easily. They thought themselves into being lost. They even labelled themselves as lost. They had the actions and behaviours of being lost.
The more confused and lost they became, the more their thinking seemed to speed up. They were just going over and over the same ground, past the same tree stump, never actually achieving anything - no matter how hard they tried.
They placed themselves very neatly in a landscape of lost thinking and lost feelings. Guess what? They became lost!
Mr Overwhelm laughed.
"That would be me too, I even get lost in planning and in marking. I really do go around in circles of overwhelm."
FINDING YOUR WAY BACK HOME
Being stuck or lost in overthinking is a very human ME TOO story.
The fact that our thoughts are tyransient (made of energy( and fluctuate up and down, means we are all capable of becoming lost AND we are EQUALLY capable of finding our way (like the group of Y9's who made it to the giant Redwood).
We experience our thought moment to moment. When we have high tension and low mood we have
Thinking clearly becomes impossible.
When we experience low tension and a neutral or high mood, we feel OK. Our thinking is slow, clear, and peaceful.
We are all capable of finding the giant redwood, until we THINK we are not!
What does all this point towards?
Michael Neill in his book ‘the space [within] FINDING YOUR WAY BACK HOME’ talks about our human potential being infinite and yet we choose to:
“ … live in a relatively limited range of that potential.”
When we can notice where we keep ourselves small (or lost) through fears and insecurities, not achieving who we really can be, we can see beyond such limitations.
I coach in hundreds of schools’ and I see this limitation in action. I also see them dissolve when students begin to see it for themselves. Our natural way of being is diagram 1, resilient and expansive. When we lose sight of our natural well- being, it is created through what Dr Bill Pettit calls ‘psychological innocence’ i.e. of being lost in our own thinking. (Diagram 2 below)
This is the stuff of our human psychology. WE are thinking feeling beings. We even create our OWN thought and feelings moment to moment, we are our very own experience creating machines!
Sometimes we create naturally lighter, easier thought, that brings deeper wisdom. And sometimes we create anxieties and overwhelm, losing sight of the wisdom, even though it is always there.
UNDERSTANDING we are the creator, INFORMS EVERYTHING WE DO.
The DEEPER FEELING Landscape
Like the field trip story, when we don't have much on our mind, we handle clallenge and change, and even conflict, from a place of EASE.
We now know that thought fluctuates up and down. Sometimes high, sometimes low.
When we are lost and stuck in a low mood we feel awful and lonely or isolated, disconnected even.
When we are in a more neutral space we experience greater depth of feeling and we can access our own wisdom. Both are sides of the same coin. Our natural true self and our created moment by moment self are all part of our human experience, we always have choice.
The great thing is, when you realise that choice is ever present, you can choose to continue to create your own fear and insecurity, OR NOT.
Because the cause is YOU, not something external, you now learn to have more of the feelings you want, and maybe even begin to understand how to accept your self -creations (worries etc.) with greater ease. This is what Michael Neill refers to as ‘effortless change.’
In the words of Syd Banks in his book The Missing Link
“The achievement of mental stability and peace of mind is one thought away from everyone on earth … if you can find that one thought.”
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